Raising children is often quoted as being the hardest job in the world. We, as parents and as educators, want the very best for the children in our care. So, is the job of parenting getting harder rather than easier? Technological developments have made many of the mundane chores of our everyday lives easier and quicker to accomplish, however, many of us comment on being more time poor than ever. Advances in technology have created a world where we are accessible 24/7. We can be contacted via a multitude of media at anytime by friends, family and work and this often impacts upon our down time. Parents are also working harder than ever to provide a multitude of opportunities for their children in order to give them every advantage possible. These tangible opportunities are wonderful and reap so many benefits for our children, but what are the intangibles that are also important?
Michael Grose, a parenting expert, espouses that the development of confidence, character and resilience are the key areas that will lead to long term achievement and success for our children.
Confidence – taking their place in the world. Developing confidence in your child is one of the greatest gifts you can give them. Confident children grow up to be confident adults who have a strong sense of self and are able to achieve well in their future directions. Fostering a positive mindset and sense of optimism combined with helping your child to overcome fears and anxieties so that they are able to take academic & social risks will develop a lasting self-sufficiency for your child.
Character – developing the behaviours and attitudes to succeed. Character is about doing what is right, not what is easy. Developing character can be extremely difficult as it is often a natural reaction to try to jump in and sort a problem out for our children. Whilst this may help them in the short term, it does not assist them in the long term. Children need to learn the skills of coping with adversity because that is what they will need to succeed in the real world when they eventually leave home and need to be self-reliant.
Resilience – coping with setbacks and hurdles. Many children grow up with a natural sense of resilience. They are able to ‘dust themselves off and pick themselves up’ after a difficult situation and move on in a positive manner. However, not all of us have this natural resilience. The good news is that resilience can be learnt by developing independence, problem-solving, optimism and social connection.
These three attributes align nicely with our College motto of Excellence, Care & Commitment. We, as a school community, continually strive to challenge the individual to achieve and act with purpose and character, as noted in our College Mission. These are not merely words; they provide the foundation stones for all that we do.
Raising children may be the most difficult job in the world but it is also the most rewarding. For advice and strategies that work visit Michael Grose’s website: http://www.parentingideas.com.au/Home
To all of the mums, grandmothers and mother figures, I wish you all a wonderful Mothers’ Day on Sunday.
Dr Marie Perry